Then I remembered that song “Turn it off!” from when I saw the musical “The Book of Mormon,” in Hawaii. (Squirrel* The musical was awesome! If you haven’t seen it, it’s a must! Highly recommend!). The song had the wrong words for a pick me up, but such a catchy tune! Then I started thinking what if it was called “Turn it on!” and the words were changed to describe how there are things that I really don’t want to do, but just needed a quick shift and burst of much needed positive energy. This thought gave me a light at the end of the tunnel. “Turn it on and do something new, do do do do do do do! Turn it on!” I took a deep breath, put on a smile, and said “Hello!” to those unknown strangers in the room and introduced myself as “wedding photographer extraordinaire!” to see if anyone was paying attention. Turns out everyone is there for exactly the same reason and feeling exactly the same way I was.
Fast forward to a few networking meetups later. I felt more confident, I made more connections, I knew more familiar faces. I worked with more people. I also ran out of business cards. Wow! I was excited! It wasn’t nearly as scary as I initially felt. On the flip side, every now and then I meet some people that are very hurtful and discouraging (and I have totally cried on my drive home).
Its instances like that where my partner gives me a big bear hug, makes me some tea, tells me that I’m an awesome human, and reminds me its totally “OK” to not work with everyone. Its unfortunate that such people exist in a community which is all about meeting new people and building relationships, but those people exist everywhere. It also made me realize the importance of how a little bit of kindness goes along way. I also feel so much gratitude when I meet other like minded individuals.
“No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.”
Having been a wedding photographer in the wedding industry in Hawaii, as long as I have, it’s important to know who I can trust and depend on. Thus I have been coveting and refining a list of my favorite vendors which includes (but are not limited to): hair and make up artists, florists, musicians, catering, videographers, wedding venues, coordinators, officiants, and restaurants. That being said, I’m also happy to share my findings with you. Send me message for more information.