By, Tabitha Miki Floral Designer for Jolene Kaneshige Photography
It’s easy to be incredibly romantic when the relationship is going well, but the true “measure of a partner;” is when issues arise and we don’t see eye to eye! It is learning to sort through the miscommunication, the hurt feelings, and ego and to love one another completely, the beautiful, the ugly,everything. That is the true test of love! There is a saying that it takes a village to raise a child, but I feel that same amount of care and aid needs to be given to a couple on their journey towards marriage! We have marriage counselors for when people are having problems, but why not be proactive and start encouraging healthy relationship habits before discontent or any sort of threat to the relationship takes place? Most of the time, myself included, it is all too easy to be caught up in the romance of the proposal, the planning of the wedding, and the wedding itself.
We overlook a key component to any proposal, the couple themselves. So as couples, young, old, first marriage or on their third walk down the path towards marriage; we, the family, friends, coworkers can be actively and objectively be preparing them to face the challenges of the journey before them that they may emerge triumphant and strong! To those considering marriage, be proactive! Be sure you see all the beauty in each other as well as realistically understanding and accepting one each other. Go for relationship counseling before the marriage to equip yourselves with many of the tools you can use to make your relationship strong. Each person in a relationship invests so much into it, your heart, your emotions, time, resources, finances, doesn’t it make sense to use the right tools for the right project? For flowers, you seek out a florist; for photos, a photographer; for relationships, a counselor before the wedding bells sound! It will be the best investment of your life!
I was reading several articles on proposals, marriage, marriage success rates; and all these thoughts were racing through my brain. It was then that I thought about some of the little reasons we get hurt. (I am not a professional marriage counselor, these are simply reflections from my own experiences. Consult a professional counselor or therapist for any counseling needs).
To be continued…
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